I use "he" - but n's can be male or female. I read with great interest an article in Psychologies Magazine July edition. There was a three page article about getting rid of the toxic relationship and it mentioned The Echo Society www.theechosociety.org.uk The Echo Society's work is to try and put an end to narcissistic abuse and I have no idea how they are going to achieve this? The article has left me wondering how we can bring awareness to the powers that be? The police, th